Stripper Advice for Your 1st Day!

OMG!! I decided to make this while being HIIIIGH! 😙💨🤪

I was inspired to make this for my baddies who are thinking about becoming a stripper or looking for stripper tips and tricks! You’ve decided that you’re going to fucking do it, you are getting prepared and ready to GET THAT BAG! 💰🤑 Sooo, I have some advice for you girlies and some things I want to tell you just to help you thrive in your first couple of days! And share some things that I wish someone would’ve told me when I first started. 

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BUT, before we get into that! ✋🛑

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Tip Number 1!

YOU ARE A BAD FUCKING BITCH. You are Hot As Fuck! 😜🌶️ Don’t let anybody, anything, your own insecurities, or comparison make you think otherwise! Okay? I mean, there’s going to be girls that you think might be prettier than you. Or might have a better body than you. Or customers will say things that will make you feel insecure but don’t ever believe them because it’s bullshit. 🙅‍♀️

You’re hot as fuck, You’re a Bad Fucking Bitch, and NOTHING will ever change that! 😘💕And show up as the most CONFIDENT version of Yourself! Try to have fun!! I know that it can be very nerve-wracking, it can be scary and intimidating. But just go with the mindset of, “I’m here to have fun. I’m here to have a good time, be myself, and be sensual. And to see how much money I can make and see where the night goes.” Just show up as this fun person. 🤩💸

Don’t let your insecurities make you shrink yourself. Don’t ever feel shy, the strip club is the place to be like your fullest, authentic self.  So let your authenticity shine when you’re at work! 😎💅

Tip Number 2!

FOCUS ON THE CUSTOMERS. Focus on them, and not the girls. Hear me out, I get it! You want to look around the room and see what everyone else is doing and maybe take notes.👀📝 But I feel that if you really put all of your energy and intention into talking to the customers, this is where you get your money! 🤑

Watching the other girls is How We Get Into Comparison. That’s how we start thinking things like, “ Okay, how can I be like them? They’re so hot and I’m not good enough!” 😭😿This will lead you into a negative spiral. So when you’re at work, SPEND THAT ENERGY TALKING TO THE CUSTOMERS. Have conversations and interact with the guys. Of course, don’t be afraid to make connections and friends with the other dancers, but most of your attention should be focused on the customers. Because those other girls won’t be the ones making you money. That is between You and the Customers. 🫰💅💸

Tip Number 3!

(Maybe the biggest one) BE READY TO SEDUCE. 

You are at the strip club to SEDUCE these men, not make friends with them like you're at a bar or a club! 🚨💰 You Are Here to Make Money, You Are Here to Seduce These Men. 💁‍♀️

They don’t care about you. They don’t care about where you’re from, what you do in the daytime, what you do for your hobbies. I used to make that mistake! I thought, “Fuck! What do I talk with these guys about? What kind of conversations do I have? I need to get to know them! What do you do for work?” All of these fucking things that no one really cares about, cause at the end of the night they’re gonna be a blank face and a dollar bill. 🫥💵

Like seriously, I don’t remember 99% of the people I meet at the club!! Because it’s not that important and it goes both ways. No disrespect at all, but you and the customer will know that you're both there for a fun, enjoyable, sexual experience. That’s all that it is! 🍆🍑🌶️

You’re here to seduce, so keep the conversations sexy, present, and in the club! Don’t talk about politics, or their kids, or their girlfriends, or whatever they do for work, really keep it in the present. 🙅‍♀️🛑

Because you can end up putting yourself in the friendzone! 😅 OMG I used to do this all of the time! Me and some customer would have a good conversation about travel and life! And then I’m like, “Fuck, how do I transition this into becoming a lap dance? How do we go from slavery and immigration law into my titties in your face???” 🤨⁉️ I used to struggle rearing the conversation back where I wanted it to be because I would put myself in that friendzone! 🫠

Try not to do this, keep it sexy, ask them what their turn-ons are, what they find the sexiest in women, what are their fantasies, do they have kinks, do they have any desires, any fantasies they haven’t experienced yet, maybe talk about yours! This will help you transition into getting a lap dance! 🌶️💵

Tip Number 4!

TALK TO EVERYONE. Girl, forget all of your limiting beliefs like, “Mexican guys don’t like me, this kind of person is not into me, I don’t think that guy is gonna wanna talk to me.” Fuck all of that bullshit and TALK TO EVERYONE! You never know who that customer is to make your night. You never know who’s going to vibe with you. 💁‍♀️🧐 Just work the room, and talk to every customer. And don't be afraid to be rejected! They might so “no” and say “I’m not interested.” Okay cool, just push on and move on to the next one. 👉👱‍♂️💵

Really try and put in the effort! Talk to the whole room and try to show everyone who you are. 😊😘

Tip Number 5!

SAY YOU’RE NEW. Guys love a newbie, so let them know that it’s your first night, first week, or first month there! Start conversations with, “I’m new here, I just started dancing, I’m so nervous, I don’t know what to expect.” 😻 Talk about why you started dancing. Are you going to school? Did you just move into town? Have you always wanted to try it, but didn’t have the balls? These are great conversation starters, and guys love to support newbies. 💁‍♀️💅

There is a high percentage that even if they are not super attracted to you or interested in lap dances, they might be with you because you’re new and they want to support you! 💃🏽💸

Tip Number 6!

TRUST YOUR INTUITION. If you get weird vibes from someone while talking to them, don’t be afraid to walk away. Here are a couple of signs you might notice in your body:

• You might start feeling physically contracted. You start holding your breath, your body feels tense, and you feel uncomfortable. These are signs from your intuition that this might not be the right person to talk to. And if a guy gets handsy with you at the first conversation and you haven’t even given him a lap dance yet. He’s grabbing your ass and trying to see your pussy. That’s a red flag, he’s going to be too much with a lap dance. So don’t be afraid to walk away. 🚩🚩🚩
  • Here’s how you can walk away mid-conversation, “I gotta go to the bathroom, I’ll be right back. I’m gonna go get some water. I just ordered a pizza and it just got delivered. My friend just got here, I’m going to say “Hi!” and just leave. ✌️

                    If they are giving you weird vibes, just get up and walk away! You will save time and energy                            knowing when to walk away. 

• If you are having a very boring conversation, then that’s a good sign that he’s not into you. Guys sometimes get uncomfortable or get shy because they wonder how they should tell girls that they aren’t interested without being assholes. 😓 And a lot of the time they try to be boring and give one-word sentences. For example: “How is your day?” 

“Good.”

“What do you do for work?”

“Work.”

“Have you ever been here before?”

“Yep.” 

🫠🙃

If you’re not getting any energy back from them, then that’s a good sign to walk away and move on to the next one. 👉👱‍♂️💵 

And that’s okay! Because you don’t want to spend 20-30 minutes with someone who isn’t going to spend money on you. 🙅‍♀️ Only go to where your energy and presence will be welcomed and appreciated. ALSO, even if I feel like the connection isn’t there I will still ask to give a lap dance! And if they’re not interested then I just move on! Because you don’t know if these guys are just awkward ASF. So I always just ask, and if it’s a “no” then I move on. 💁‍♀️💅

Tip Number 7!

ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE. There was this girl I talked to at work and she was like, “ Oh my gosh, how do you get so many lap dances??” And I tell her, I don’t know I just ask.” And she’s like, “What?? You ask, I never ask. 😱😳  I just wait for them to ask me for a lap dance!!” And that’s where she was fucking up! 🚨 You Can’t Be Afraid to Ask for a Lap Dance! Ask for a dance, ask for a tip, ask for them to buy you a drink. 📋💵

You need to put yourself out there and ask for what you want. ❗️❣️ And you will get exactly what you want. In the first five minutes of a conversation, I would say ask them for a dance. Maybe the first 10 minutes. Because if they’re into you, and if they think you’re hot and if they like you, of course they’re going to say yes! Like, why the fuck not?? 😜🌶️

Because it’s all about the VIBES and the ENERGY that you come with 💖✨ !! The second they see you and feel your vibe and energy is when they have already told themselves if it’s a “yes” or a “no.” And they are just waiting for you to ask for it. ⏳

Something else to note is that men get turned on by paying you, taking care of you, spoiling you, and providing for you. 😜 So don’t feel greedy or like you’re being a bad person because you’re asking for money because they like it! That’s what they’re there for. They wouldn’t be at a strip club if they didn’t want to pay a beautiful woman to hang out with them or spend time with them. 👯‍♀️🌶️ That’s what they’re there for, and don’t feel bad for asking for money!

Tip Number 8!

SPEAK YOUR BOUNDARIES. Speak them up the FIRST TIME. ❗️ I will be honest, I still struggle with this, and something that I have been working on with myself. But if someone does something you don’t like, say it the First Time.❗️❗️❗️ I can still be the girl that is giving a guy a lap dance, and I can see his hand reaching out to my pussy. And instead of saying, “Hey, just don’t touch my pussy.” I will just move his hand. Because I don’t to make the vibe awkward. And the times I will say them up front, they will stop and respect it. They will lean back and say, “Oh shoot! My bad, I don’t want to disrespect you. I will follow your rules.” 💅

But, guys like to play stupid unless you really lay it out on the table for them. 🙄 If a guy is doing something you don’t like, just tell him right away! It’s going to save you so much trauma and uncomfortable feelings just by speaking about what you do and don’t want. 🙅‍♀️🚨So practice that, don’t make it a habit of letting things slide too much. Because if you’re in the room with someone for an hour with someone moving their hands and having to say, “Don’t suck my titties, don’t touch my pussy, don’t put your finger in my ass, don’t lick me, don’t kiss me!” JUST TELL THEM RIGHT AWAY. ❗️

I sometimes say, “I got TWO rules for my dances. ✌️2️⃣My first rule is that I want your hands on me at all times. And my second rule is just don’t touch my pussy. And don’t kiss or lick me.” Can you see that for one, It’s Sexy like “I can have my hands on you!” and two, but I’m also speaking my boundaries of where I don’t want to be touched. And they always respect it and guys are really nice about it. 😉

Tip Number 9!

YOU OWE THESE MEN NOTHING. You Don’t Owe Them Shit. 💁‍♀️🙅‍♀️ They’re not paying for your body, they’re not paying to touch you. They are paying to be in your presence. That’s the number one thing. ☝️

Something else to keep in mind. Let’s say you’re giving this guy a lap dance and he tries to suck on your titty, you say “no” but he responds with, “Well she let me suck her titties when she gave me a dance. That’s what lap dances are for right?” NO, it’s not. Just because someone else allows something does NOT mean you have to. 🙅‍♀️ And never let anyone trick you or force you into doing something you don’t want to do, because you don’t and it’s bullshit. 😒💅 Just really know that and stand up for yourself. Know what your own boundaries are and think about them ahead of time. Think about what would you be okay with, and what wouldn’t you be okay with. And you can always change your mind at the moment!

Let’s be fucking for real, you might be giving the hottest guy a lap dance and you are like, “You know what, he is going want to kiss my neck I am NOT going to say, “No!”  That shit is turning me on!”  Then THAT’S cool. 😉💦

But then 10 minutes later, a fucking 600-pound sweaty guy that smells like onions come in and tries to do the same thing. 🤢😷 You can say, “Nah uh, that is a no-go baby don’t even TRY IT!” So you can make up your own rules, they can change who you’re vibing with and who’s in your presence. But always remember that YOU are the Head Bitch in Charge. 👸❣️

Tip Number 10!

DON’T EVER EVER EVER GIVE UP. I’ma be honest with you. It can get ROUGH sometimes, you might get a lot of rejection. 😖🤬 There was a time that I was at work for like 5 hours getting HARDCORE rejected. I’ve gotten, “No thank you, I’m not interested, you’re not my type, I don’t want to spend money.” And I was starting to get annoyed because I see the other girls getting dances and it felt like I was the only one that wasn’t. 🤯🫠 And this brings me to my next point: you never know who that customer is that will make your night! Spending all of their money and time with YOU! 💰

On that same day after 5 hours of “no’s” I met one guy who got two champagne rooms with me and tipped me $500. I made all of my money from one person, who was at the last hour of the night. 🙏💵 You never know what to expect, you never know who is going to come your way. Don’t give up, even if you’re having a hard night. My favorite affirmation is, “It only takes one person, and he is about to walk in the door?” 💝Always say this to yourself and BELIEVE he will walk in. 😉

Tip Number 11!

DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL. You might have some mean and rude customers. 😓 But don’t take it personally, guys can be mean and such assholes (and so are women). Just don’t take shit personally Baddie! If someone says anything rude or mean, just say “Whatever. Who cares?” Their opinion is Fucking Worthless. It means absolutely nothing, it has no value and don’t let this shit stick to you or get to you. 🙅‍♀️❗️

I’ve had some weird shit happen to me where someone will say, “I’m usually not into black women, but you're actually kinda attractive.” 🤬🫠 And it could be so easy for me to be like, “OMG you’re so rude and racist!! How dare you talk about black women like that??” and get my whole panties in a bunch. But at the end of the day, who’s energy is that affecting? That is affecting my energy, not his. He’s going to leave and go on with his life, and I can stay mad about it all night and all week and start creating all of these beliefs. Or, I can be like, “That guy is a fucking idiot.” let it go, forget it happened, and not let it get to you! 💅

The easier you can let it go, the easier it will be to move on.   

Tip Number 12!

BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF. 🥰 You’re new, you’re not going to get everything right. You might look awkward as fuck on the stage, you might have a hard time starting conversations and talking to customers. Or asking for lap dances, you might feel awkward as fuck in the VIP. BUT, you’re always going to be improving, and you’re going to continue to keep leveling up your skills! 😈💃🏽🌶️ Like you are going to level up so fast!!  You’re going to feel like a pro RIGHT AWAY. 

Be patient with yourself! You are going to get better, and think of it as “This is just ONE night out of 10,000.” You’re going to work 10,000 nights as a stripper. Who cares if you’re going to have 1, 10, or 20 awkward nights?? It doesn’t matter in the big scheme of things, so don’t let it get you down. 💁‍♀️

Tip Number 13 (The Last OOOONE)!

ALWAYS BE FUCKING GRATEFUL. 🙏💓 ALWAYS sink into GRATITUDE. When you make $1,000 nights, obviously feel grateful. But, when you make a $25 night like I did before, once again, Always Feel Grateful. 

I was like, “You know what? I made $25, but I got to be with my girlfriends at work. I had some fun conversations, I was dressed up and looking cute in lingerie. Vibing to the music and expressing my sexuality. I only worked like 3-4 hours.” And guess what?! I made $2,000 the other night!!! 🙌💰 Just Sink Into Gratitude, because it doesn’t even matter. I am having fun, I am grateful for this job, grateful for the freedom and abundance. And the self-expression that comes with it, I’m happy! 🤭🤗

So if you’re having a bad night, Always be Grateful. Don’t get into a negative mindset because you’re going to have so many good GOOD and AMAZING and some bad nights. 

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, I hope this was helpful for you. And girl! If you are a new stripper check out my masterclass, Stripper 101: 5K in 5 Days. 💃🏽🌶️ This will teach you the foundational basics to get you started to help find your club, pick your shifts, know what to bring, know how to get hired, the art of seduction, how to talk to customers, how to ask for dances and tips in this line of sex work!

This masterclass is ONLY $111, which I PROMISE you will make back in on your first fucking day. 🤞💗 If not your first hour! So save yourself the confusion, waste of time, and the awkwardness of going to work and not knowing what this fuck to do! 😉😘