Stripper Tips: What to say when customers want EXTRAS 💦🍆

Hello, my AMAZING BABES!! It’s your girl Amber the Baddie! 💃🏽🤗 And welcome to the Bad Bitch Academy! This is seriously the hotspot for my strippers, my money-makin’ heaux, my entrepreneurs, and my all-around Bad Bitches! 💪💖 If that is your vibe and you resonate with these things, make sure you subscribe to my YouTube channel The Bad B*tch Academy, and follow my Instagram @amberthestrippercoach!! 💋

Many of you may have heard about my course, Let’s Talk Money Honey💵🤑!! Which is all about Sales, How to Talk to Customers at a Strip Club, and get them to SPEND MONEY ON YOU. 💸💃🏽 Because that’s what we fucking want right?! We’re at work to MAKE MONEY, Not to Make Friends. Not to waste our time. This course is just SO Helpful. Twenty videos of some incredible information and ABSOLUTE GOODNESS. 🤗💚

BUT, I was meditating earlier and I got a message, “GIRL, you should share this blog with your people! Yes, it’s part of the paid course, but they need to KNOW THIS. You get asked this, you get this question all of the Time!🧐🍆 But share this for free, give them the tasteeeee of What’s Inside the Course!” And that is what I’m Doing! Sooo, we’re going to talk about Costumers That Want EXTRAS. 💦🍆 The ones that are like “Uhh what do we do in the VIPs, what can I get?? Girrrl let me take you home! You come riiiiide on this donkey??” 😭☠️ Like seriously, someone ACTUALLY said this!! If you have been wondering what to do in this situation, read this blog all the way to the end, because it’s going to have amazing and juicy tips for you!! 💅👑

As dancers, we NEED to keep the vibe sexy AND STILL MAKE MONEY. 🥵🌶️ Because that’s the thing. Do you want to be the girl that goes like, “NO, I Don’t Do Extras?” No, because then that can kinda kill the vibe, and they move on. BUT, at the same time, you don’t want to put yourself in a situation with a customer that’s trying to DO IT ALL. So how do you find a balance? GIRL, that is EXACTLY what I’m going to teach you!! 📝

Okay, so I’m going to be honest. There are a lot of different strategies I’m going to share. Not only things that I personally do but things I see Other girls do that I don’t do. 🤷‍♀️👀 Because that’s just not my vibe, but I'm gonna tell you them anyway. To each their own! 

What Do the Other Girls Do?

Let’s start with what other people do. There are A LOT OF GIRLS, A LOT OF THEM, that are straight-up SCAMMERS. 🚨❌ Scammers…! They have no problem being like, “Oh baby, you want it all? Yeah, let’s go to the VIP.” And the customer is paying for it, and the girls are like, “HA, I ain’t doin' nothing! I lied to you! It’s true, it was a scam. You already paid, you can leave if you want to. Fuck You.” 😳🫣 And girls do that! I personally have never done that because it doesn’t feel right to me. And I feel like I know how to make money by being honest. Like, why lie and scam people, because it’s not good karma…? 😇🤷‍♀️ BUT, that’s definitely something that SOME people do, even though I don’t personally advise it. Just because You CAN put yourself in a dangerous situation. 🛑🙅‍♀️ You don’t know if there is going to be a customer who is aggressive, has a history of abusing women, and if you’re going to straight up lie to them and be in a private room, who knows what they’re gonna do when they realize that it was all a Fucking Scam. ⛔️⚠️

So, IF you’re gonna do that be aware, be careful, but that’s a option. ⚠️❗️

Now to the REAL ADVICE. 📓 What do I like to do? My answer is: IT DEPENDS. ⚖️ So, I’m going to give you a couple of different scenarios and what you can actually do. So, let’s say you’re on the floor and you’re talking to a customer. Now. I’m very vigilant about just straight-up avoiding customers who are Too Much. 🙅‍♀️💅 I don’t think it’s worth the money to be in a room with someone who is trying to Violate Me straight-up for a whole hour. 🤮⏳That’s not fun for me, keep your fucking $500. There is more money to be made by somebody who is respectful. 

🚩RED FLAG ALERT! 🚩

So, I’m talking to a customer on the floor. If I can already see if he is SUPER touchy and handsy while we’re in the main room, and before he has even paid me a fucking dollar, that is already a 🚩 *Red Flag Alert.* 🚩 He is not going to be a good customer, you probably SHOULD NOT waste your time. 🙅‍♀️

That’s totally me, like, “Naaah, I gotta eat pizza in the back.” I make up an excuse and I just walk away. ✌️👋That’s the Best, BEST case scenario. Like, save yourself the trouble. Because those customers who are too handsy on the floor (YOU KNOW WHO I’M TALKING ABOUT) just grab your ass and go like, “Ah, let me see your titties. Show me your nipples girl, let me see what chu got!” Girl, this is BROKE BITCH ENERGY. ☠️❌

They are broke. 🤣 They wanna grope you and wanna touch women for free, and try to fuck you for $20. 🤢💩 And girl they are EVERYWHERE. Every country I’ve worked in, every state I’ve worked in, You’ve Got the Creepos That Are BROKE AS FUCK. 🌎🤣 And that is not our vibe, that’s not who we’re after, and those are Not Our Customers. So: if they’re too touchy, you ignore them.

But, if you’re already on the floor and they’re like, “Ooh, so what do you do back in the VIP? What can I get??” Okay, girl, you got some options. 📋🖊️ So, back when I was a baby stripper, I used to be a lot more upfront about it. I would be like, “I Don’t Do Extras. You’re Not Going to Get That From Me. If You Want That From Someone, It’s Not Me.” 💁‍♀️And I would Still make a Shit Ton of Money. 🎊💰 That didn’t necessarily stop me from making money. BUT, I still noticed that it is a boner-killer. 🍆❌ Like, guys are there for the fantasy. ✨🪩 They know that there is no way in HELL that I am not gonna suck your smelly, old, wrinkly fucking dick.🙅‍♀️❌ But they are SURE AS HELL gonna ask… They sure as HELL gonna see what they can get, even though they know logically it’s not gonna happen! 

So, what I have been doing more of is kinda playing into the fantasy. ✨🌶️If they are like, “What do I get?” I’ll be like, “Well, let me show you!” Or I would talk about my lap dances and say, “Yeah when I’m in the VIP, I like to be Super Sensual.” 😚 🌶️

Don’t Forget to Paint Word Pictures

Men are visual creatures. If you want to turn a man on, you need to paint a clear picture for him of what to expect! 👀🖼️ If you say, “My VIPs are fun, my VIPs are sexy.” They will think, “Okay? What does that mean?” But, if you say, “Yeah when I’m in the VIP, you’re going to feel like you’re making love to me. You're going to have your hands all over me, you’re going to have your nose on my neck. I’m going to be completely naked grinding on your hard dick. Soaking wet! Like OMG, it’s going to be so fun!” 🥵💦🍆

And if he’s like, “But I want to do more!” Then say, “Bade I can’t, because there are cameras in there. But, I promise you it’s going to be fun. And let’s see where it goes!” And once again! You’re not saying, “NO I’M NEVER GOING TO FUCK YOU.” But more of, “Let’s see where it goes. You know, I’m free so let’s see where it goes! Maybe you can seduce me and change my mind.” 🤷‍♀️🥵

I feel like men have it too easy, where it’s like you can’t ask me to fuck you. You have to seduce me and work for it, you know? 💁‍♀️🌶️ And I have even told customers, “You want to fuck me? Okay, then you’re gonna have to seduce me. Right now I Am DRY. Like, my pussy is the Sahara Desert.🌵 You need to turn me into the Niagra Falls 🌊, you need to take me to the VIP and you can show me what you got! I can see if you are worthy of my body. Just because you ask and you want it doesn’t mean that you fucking deserve it. Or that you’re going to get it! You need to prove to me what you’ve got. I wanna see how your hand feels when you touch me. I wanna see if there is chemistry between us. I wanna see if I can feel the sparks and electricity while our bodies are touching. Can you show me that?” 😮‍💨🪭

And you know guys and their egos! They’re like, “Oh yeah girl I will be the best fuck of your life!” Then I’ll be like, “Okay bitch, Show Me In A Lap Dance. Prove It, Spend That Fucking Money.” 😆💸 But I really only do this if I feel the customer is respectful. But, if a guy is being handsy and already doing too much, Once Again, he’s going to be doing TOO MUCH for an hour in the back. ❌ And honestly, here’s something else that other girls do. I only did this once, JUST ONCE. ☝️

I’ll get a guy that is super handsy on the floor. We were going to the VIP and he was being handsy which I fucking expected. But, he was taking it too far and I said, “You know what, I’m done. You’re not respecting my boundaries. I’m out of here.” He paid $1200 and I was in there for like 8 minutes. I got the money, he got kicked out, and I was like deuces! 💲✌️This shit is cool, I should do this more often!  But, I Don’t, because I’m a good person. I feel bad for scamming people, but that is an option. 🤷‍♀️📝

If you have someone going too far, girl you Better Walk Out of There and Keep Your Fucking Money. 🚶‍♀️‍➡️💸 And in the time you would have been in the VIP with That customer, you could be back in the VIP with a BETTER customer! 🏆💲 So, there’s so much you can do! Don’t let customers overstep their boundaries. This is a BIG ONE. I recommend watching this video I made about Having Boundaries with Your Customers Because Bitch, that shit is important! 💅👑

How Do You Keep Making Money?

Okay, so let’s say you’re already in the VIP with a customer. And he’s all like, “Oh Baby, you should suck my dick! What we gonna dooo? I wanna do more than what we’ve been doin’!” They’re already talking about how they wanna fuck you. “You should come home with me, we’re going to have more fun thereeee!” 🗣️

So, babe, you don’t want to be like, “NO, You’re an UGLY MOTHER FUCKER.” (Even though that IS what you’re thinking). 💭 So, how do you keep making money and Play into the Fantasy?  ✨🪩 What I do is I Make Them Paint Word Pictures for Me. 🖼️🥵

If I am giving a lap dance, and the guy is like, “Oh My God, I wanna take you home.” And I would be like, “You wanna take me home? 😊 What are we going to do?? Eat cereal and watch cartoons?” And he’s like, “No girl I’m gonna do Dirty Thangs to You!” And I’m like, “Dirty Things?? What kind of dirty things?” And I’ll make him tell me. Like, “Oh you want to fuck me? Where?? In your house? 🏠 Okay but Where?? On the couch, the kitchen counter? In the hot tub or on the floor? In the closet, the shower? I mean tell me where!....Oh okay on the bed, cool! What’s your biggest turn-ons?”🌶️🥵 I let him tell me his turn-ons, and I say “Okay, well my turn-ons are this.” 😜🥵

By the waaaaay, the Time is Tickin’! 🕚🤭 We are wasting time here! We are over here talking about fantasies, dirty talk, he already paid me money, and I might be giving him a lap dance as we are talking. I’m like, “Oh Really, you do thiiiis you do thaaaat,” while I’m twerking in his face! 💃🏽😆 Just talking as you’re giving a lap dance! “What are your biggest turn-ons? What are your favorite positions? This one is mine, what is the craziest experience you’ve had? Just get him distracted! If he is Still talking about sex, he’s going to forget that this conversation started with him wanting to fuck you! 😆🙃

So, you just want to prolong the conversation, waste time, and distract him while still keeping the conversation sexy, dirty, and naughty. ⌛️🥵 And he’ll be like, “For real, we’ve been talking about this. Are we gonna do this or what?! And then, this is where it’s like you can PRETEND to be super into it and be like, “Yeah, OMG that sounds so hot! That sounds so amazing, I’m sure that you would rock my world and be the best Fuck I’ve Ever Had! Um, but I can’t leave until 3 am, and how about we keep this sexy energy here until I’m off?” You’re not saying, “Yes I will go home with you!” You’re not saying, “Yes” to anything. You’re just like, “Yeah let’s keep this hot energy, and let’s stay together until the end of my shift and we will see!” You’re Not Lying. You’re Not Fooling Anybody. But You Are Making Him Think He Has a Chance. Which He DOESN’T, BUT He Already Secretly Knows That. 🤷‍♀️🤡

And honestly, that’s kinda what I do. It works to kinda get guys to stay in the VIP back-to-back thinking that they have a chance. Because here’s the thing, if they really want you. And you leave and get a lap dance with someone else, maybe you think that guy is hotter and you go home with Him! ↗️😆 Maybe another guy will offer you money and you go home with Him! ↘️🤭 Maybe you forget about the First guy and you Never see him again! 👏🤷‍♀️ So, give him the illusion that by spending more time with you he has a better chance. You can say something like, “Oh, well let’s spend the rest of this night together and consider this our first date!” And get to know each other. I don’t sleep with people until I have gotten to know them. So this can be considered our first date and we can go from there!” That’s another way! ☑️

Now! I don’t really recommend this. Even though I’ve done it a few times before…but some girls will straight up lie to customers and say, “Yeah I’ll go home with you. That’ll be $500.” It could be $1000, $2000, $5000, it just depends on where you’re at. Choose a number and be like, “Yeah, let’s do this!” So let’s say it’s gonna be $1000, “I want $1000, I want $500 upfront and $500 when I get there. Just to make sure you’re not going to waste my time” If the customer is DRUNK, if he is FUCKED UP, there’s a better chance that he’s not gonna think and say, “SurE I’lL GivE Youu $500, ThAT’s THen DepoOsit.” 😂🍺 And then you just block his number and never see him again!

The problem with THAT though is that you don’t want Crazy Customers, you don’t want Stalkers. 😵🙏 You don’t want to do this to someone, especially if this is your Home Club, and you're there every week all the time. That’s how you can really get yourself into some shit with stalkers, or people that want to get revenge on you, or showing up to where you work. 

The only time I did this was when I was travel dancing and I was working in Vegas 🎰(if you want to learn more about Travel Dancing check out this video! 🤗). The guy wasn’t even from Vegas he was leaving in a couple of days, and I was leaving in a couple of days. So, I wasn’t really worried about him finding me, or showing up to the club later. If you are at a home club, I REALLY don’t recommend it.🙅‍♀️❌ Because you DO NOT want a crazy person coming at you over like $500. 

Let’s Wrap This Up, Honey!   

Anyway! Those are my tips on what to do when customers want to have sex and you just don’t want to have sex with them! 👏🤭 This is the key: playing into a fantasy. 🌶️✨Soooo, let me know if these tips were helpful. If you have other tips that work for you, pleeeease reach out on Instagram and share with me! Don’t be a stranger! 💋😊

And don’t forget! All of these tips and So Much More are in my course, Let’s Talk Money Honey! 💰✨ If you want to attract the right customers at the strip club, know who to talk to, who not to talk to, how to ask for dances, and ask for tips. Really just how to make work effortless in a way that works through all different types of customers. Because the way to talk to a man by himself is very different from how to talk to a bachelor party, a couple, or a creepy perv. 💁‍♂️📓
There are just different ways and strategies that I dive into in my course! I hope you invest! 😊🙏💵 Because let me tell you, It’s Going to Change the Game For You. I love you So Much, make sure to subscribe to my YouTube Channel, and add me on Instagram @amberthestrippercoach, I hope to see you soon!! 😘💋