Thinking of Becoming a Stripper? Must-Know Truths & Essential Tips for New Dancers Blog

What’s up Y’all! It’s Amber the Baddie, and Welcome to the Bad Bitch Academy!! 👑💃🏽

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So, I will go over the Hard Truths that people need to know BEFORE getting into the Stripping Industry. 🙅‍♀️🛑 If you thought about being a stripper, this is a VERY IMPORTANT BLOG FOR YOU. So READ to the VERY END to know the Challenges of being a stripper. 👇🤗

Stripping is Not an ‘EASY JOB’ 

Sometimes I talk to people, and they just have this energy of, “I’m out of options, I’m broke, I don’t like my job. I Should Just Become a Stripper!” 😳🙄 Aaaand, I really have to say that is really not the best energy to get into stripping. 🙂‍↔️🙅‍♀️Because, and maybe this is just me, but it is that kind of energy of, “Uh, I’m gonna do something easy. I know stripping is EASY, they make a lot of money by just being pretty.” 😅🙃 It’s just that I feel that people who say that really Don’t understand how CHALLENGING of a Job Stripping IS. 💯❗️❗️

They say this like, “Yeah I’ll just be an UBER DRIVER, I’ll just DOORDASH, I’ll just be a STRIPPER.” Like,.....Bitch NO! 😆🤦‍♀️ This job is a Hard Job. 💯It’s not something that is Super Easy, at least not At First. I’ve been dancing for over 7 years, and I STILL find it challenging sometimes. 👆😭 So, it’s not going to be a WALK IN THE PARK. But It Is Rewarding. You get to make a lot of money and a lot of freedom. 💰📅 But, it’s not as easy as it sounds. 

So I’m Going to Share Some Hards Truths That MAYBE You Need to Hear.  📝💯Don’t Hate Me! Don’t Come At Me Sideways If I ACCIDENTLY Hurt Your Feelings. I’m just being REAL AS FUCK. 🤷‍♀️

Stripping is an Appearance Based Job   

First things first, being a Stripper is an Appearance-Based Job. 💅👙 I’m not saying there is only one body type, you don’t have to have fake tits or a BBL or Anything done to you. BUT, you do have to be in good shape, you have to take care of yourself. 😻👗 And there’s not One definition of “good shape.” But you DO need to be in good shape that is good For You. 😏😘

And if you can just be honest with yourself, if you’re not in the best shape that you can be in, then THAT needs to be a priority. 📝🔥 Because, #1, you MIGHT NOT get hired. They might not give you a chance to work at the club. But…!

You Need to Be in the BEST SHAPE 

And that’s #2! You’re not going to make as much money IF you’re not in your Best Shape! 😳😢 So DO prioritize yourself, take care of your body, that Needs to Be a PRIORITY. 🚨🚨

Because, so many strippers I know, spend HOURS in the gym, go to yoga, stretch, and have personal trainers. We are taking care of ourselves because our money IS LINKED to how we look. 💵💅

I will touch on this again, wanting to be a stripper out of desperation and/or because of your financial situation and hardships is NOT the RIGHT ENERGY to get into it. 🙅‍♀️🛑💯 I know that a lot of women start because they need to make money, I Get That. But, you ALSO need to have a Love for the Job. Right? 🤷‍♀️🌶️

Let's say you just want to make money. But you Don’t Enjoy talking to people, feel SUPER uncomfortable dancing on stage, Don’t Know how to be Sexy, feel AWKARD when you have to initiate and start conversations, GIVE UP if you get rejected. Yeah, then stripping might not be a good job for you! 🚨💯 Because, Being a Stripper is NOT FUCKING EASY.  🙅‍♀️💯

Imagine this! You’re in a room filled with (let’s just say) 30 hot, beautiful, gorgeous women! And in that room is also (let’s say) 75 men. YOU are gonna have to be the one to TALK to everyone! 🫡🤗 You’re starting the conversations, you’re making the connections, being sexy and teasing and FLIRTING. 😉🌶️ You’re the one asking for a lapdance, you’re the one asking for tips, and in doing all of this, there’s A LOT of rejection and competition. There’s gonna be a lot of guys that are going to be ASSHOLES to you! 🤮🙄

I’ve had them come to me saying, “You’re Fucking Ugly. Don’t Talk to Me. I Don’t like Black Girls. You Need to Lose Some Weight. You Need to GAIN Some Weight.” 🤯🤯🤯 Like, I’ve had some people say some RUDE shit to me, that it can hurt your feelings! Right?! 😢😭

But what happens when it hurts your feelings? You have to GET UP, and Talk to the NEXT PERSON. ❗️💯 You Have to KEEP GOING. You Have to PERSIST even though you get rejected A Lot. I talk to (let’s say) 30 people at work, and maybe 10 of them will get dances. So out of those 30, 20 of them are saying, “No, not right now. I’m not into you. You’re not my type. No, thank you.” 🎲🎲

And I’ve had to learn NOT to let that get me down! 👑💃🏽

You Have to Work on Your Mindset

This brings me to my Next Point, you’re mindset is So Important. 🧠💖If you have a Trash Ass Mindset, you’re going to Struggle as a stripper. If you don’t BELIEVE in yourself, if you’re not CONFIDENT in yourself, if you’ve got a lot of INSECURITIES, if you JUDGE yourself, COMPARE yourself to other people, you’re going to find it MORE CHALLENGING on the job! 😵🫠

You’re only going to think about being a stripper, but you’re going to deal with all of your MIND DRAMA at the same time. 🤯😭 Working on your mindset is so important because EVERY SINGLE NIGHT you don’t know what the fuck you’re getting into! 🤷‍♀️❗️

You start the night and get into work. It can be a $1000 night, it can be a $2 night. I’ve had them both! And my $2 nights are Fucking Hard. 🥺 It’s a struggle! It’s a lot on your psyche, emotions, and energy that it’s challenging. Yeah, not a walk in the park! 🙂‍↔️😢

So, if you’re thinking about becoming a stripper because, “Oh it’s easy, I can make a lot of money, I get to work on my own schedule.” You're Wrong! It’s not easy, and you HAVE TO HUSTLE. You Have to put THAT WORK IN. 😤👩‍⚖️

Strippers Are the MOST AMBITIOUS

It’s A Lot of go-getter mentality, strippers are probably some of the most ambitious groups of women that I have ever met. And you have to have That Hustle Mentality. 💯❗️ And you NEED to have a good Attitude. I see a lot of women that are BEAUTIFUL, but they have a SHIT attitude. 😵‍💫😭 Who wants to spend money on that?? 😨

If the customer is like, “Hi, how are you?” And the girl is like, “UGH I’m having a bad day, rent’s due, I’m broke, I don’t have money.” 😓 You know, they just don’t have that FUN, HAPPY, ENERGETIC Attitude. And because of that, people don’t want to be around you. 🤷‍♀️🙅‍♀️So, if you are thinking of becoming a stripper, look at your attitude. What is your reaction when things don’t go your way? How do you act when you get rejected? Is that going to mess up your whole night? Or can you just keep going? Is that just gonna mess up your energy and you can’t just get back to it! Or do you have tools to just balance yourself out? 🧰🧘

And these are things that you need to realize if you want to be a stripper! 

It Affects Relationships and Mental Health

This is another thing to keep in mind! 👥👥 In your relationships how are your family, friends, your partner going to feel about this? It WILL have an IMPACT. 💯 I have a rocky relationship with my family because of it! Well not maybe BECAUSE of it, but it plays a part, right? 🤷‍♀️

I’ve lost A Lot of friendships from it. Because people start expecting more from you. “Oh you’re making money now? You’re making more money than I’m making at Olive Garden? Okay, then why don’t you pick me up? Why don’t you pay for my ticket? Why don’t you pay for my dinner?” 🤮😨 And it sometimes makes your friendships a little rocky if you choose to disclose that you’re a stripper. 

So maybe you can think about, if this is something that you want to do on the side and you won’t have to tell people about? 📆🤐 Ooor are you open about it? These are just more things that you want to think about.

This will also affect your mental health, and not in just the sense of while you’re at work with your insecurities and mindset. But also the schedule, going to work at 8 pm, 9 pm, 10 pm. And then getting home at 4 am, 5 am, 6 am. 😴😮‍💨 Like I get affected by that very easily, it makes me a zombie during the day!

I can’t focus, I have my own business, and it REALLY IS HARD FOR ME to work every week and be a stripper. 😭😧 

It Will Affect Your Normal Life 

So it IS going to affect your normal life! Your sleep schedule, if you have another job that’s going to be affected. If you have kids, that’s going to be affected. Your relationship, that’s going to be affected! 🌀😵‍💫

It really does affect my relationship with my husband sometimes! 😓💔 Especially when I was trying to work maybe 3 days a week. During my days off I’m sleeping all day, I’m out all night, and we have opposite schedules. ⌛️🫠 When he comes home from work and wants to do something, I have zero energy. So, you know, it IS going to affect the different areas of your life. 💯❗️

And Just Be Prepared For That.

You Can Figure Out Your Own Way

Of course, you're going to figure out your own way to make it work! So for me, I CANNOT work 3 days a week, every week. I can’t, my mental health WILL go down so much if I do! 😩😖 So what I will do is work 12 days straight, and I’ll take a month off. Again, 12 days straight, and take a month off. 📆🕒 And that really works for me. Because in those 12 days, my sleep schedule starts to get a rhythm. I start to get into a flow at work, and it just helps me personally. 👏

You, of course, will find your way. But that is another thing that women don’t realize when they get into the industry. And it’s like “Woah!” This is not a 9-5 day job, you are OUT all night. ⏰🌙 You’re using your ENERGY all night.

You Have to be in Your Best Energy at Work

 And this is something else that I have realized! If you’re having a bad day, you’re going through shit, you’re going to work in this negative energy, THAT’S GONNA FUCK UP YOUR MONEY. 😖😢That’s gonna ruin how your going to have conversations, how people vibe with you, so you have to make sure that your mental health and your energy are in the right mood. ⚖️💸   

You Have to be Tapped Into Your Sensuality

Literally, Your Job is to Seduce Men.🍑🌶️And if you don’t have a seductive bone in your body, and I’m not saying you can’t do it, but Bitch You Better Learn! 🫰🔥 You need to learn how to flirt, you need to learn how to tease, you need to learn how to have that Sex Appeal, and how to appeal to different types of men, races, and different age groups. 

You HAVE TO BE A SEXY MOTHERFUCKER! 💁‍♀️🌶️💅 Because that is what a stripper is about! It’s About The Art of Seduction, and I’ve talked to quite a few women and they say, “So, do I have to give them lap dances, like I would rather just dance on stage.” NO! 🛑🚨

Stage is not where you make your money! You Make Your Money from Lap Dances. 🍑💵 And in order to get your lap dances, you’ve got to be sexy and seductive. You have to tease, and you have to make someone Want You. And if you feel that's going to be hard for you, or that you're not going to be comfortable, chances are You’re Not Going to Thrive as a Stripper. 💯🤷‍♀️ Because, that is like a REQUIREMENT of this job. ❗️❗️

You Have to be a Strong Person

Because you’re boundaries are going to get tested. 🛑🚨❗ Okay? You are going to have guys trying to FINGER you, STICK their fingers up your ass, LICK your titties, they’re going to try and TOUCH YOU in ways that will make you uncomfortable. They are going to SAY things that will make you uncomfortable. 🤢😷🤮 And you will HAVE to know how to deal with that, and I have a video on my channel about having boundaries with customers. Check that out! Because that will be helpful for you! And yes, you’re gonna have to deal with that type of shit. 💯🫠     

And if you’re a person who has a really hard time saying, “No,” standing up for yourself, or if you don’t deal well in those types of situations, then being a stripper really might not be the thing for you! 🤷‍♀️🙅‍♀️ Because that is one of the inevitable things that’s going to happen on the job! ❗️❗️❗️

It’s not gonna happen all of the time. But, inevitably IT IS gonna happen and you ARE gonna have to deal with it. 😓😖

Don’t Let People Take Advantage of You

If you Aren’t a person who knows how to deal with it, you Will have people who are going to take advantage of you. 💯 And I don’t want that to happen! So you are gonna need to have boundaries, and KNOW how to stand up for yourself if you want to be a stripper! 🔥❣️

And these are just some hard truths about being a stripper that I thought of. I want you to make the EMPOWERED DECISION to do so. 👑🔥🌶️ I don’t want you to quit your job, and then realize, “Fuck, this is not what I expected!” I know a lot of the time people think that it’s so easy! Like it’s JUST this easy and luxurious job that we think of. 🙅‍♀️🛑 It Is Fun, It Is Luxurious. I LOVE being a stripper. BUT, the women that I end up seeing thrive and stick with it are the ones that realize that you WILL have to deal with CRAP THAT IS THIS JOB. 💪👑💯

Like I said, if you want to be a stripper, PLEASE BY ALL MEANS. If you read all of these things and think to yourself, “Girl, I got this! Of course, I can handle this. I’m going to learn! I can work through it!” And if you have an attitude of, “I’m willing to put in the work, I am willing to grow, and I am willing to try and make mistakes and get embarrassed and get rejected. But still work through it!” Then You’re Gonna Fucking Thrive!  🤗💯💖

Right? You gonna be okay. And with the points here, if you’re like, “Oh, maybe I don’t have the perfect body, maybe I don’t know how to tease, I do struggle with boundaries.” No worries, you can still learn! 📝

I’m not saying, “Oh, you can’t learn. Don’t do it.” You just might have some extra work that you need to do in order to be fully ready for that. Now, if you DO want to be a stripper and your thinking, “Damn there’s a lot here, maybe I DO need some help.” I have my STRIPPER COURSE which will be like THE ULTIMATE COURSE FOR YOU if you want to become a Stripper. 💃🏽🌶️💵

I talk about EVERYTHING from The Art of Seduction, Creating Your Stripper Alter Ego, How to Dance on Stage Without Pole Tricks, How to Give Lap Dances, All of the Sales Tricks and Tips for Approaching Customers, Asking for BIG TIPS, Dealing with Rejection, Manefistation, Budgeting, Taxes. LITERALLY EVERYTHING IS IN THIS COURSE.

I highly recommend learning more about it! Even if you’re like, “I don't know if I want to invest in it,” just read into it! See if that's something for you. We can ALWAYS have a discovery call, I can always do a couple of coaching sessions with you or Make a Package with you if you want some 1:1 support! 😁💖

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